Category: Self Love

We Teach Others How To Treat Us

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Every thought. Every word. Every action.

In every moment we teach people how to treat us.
Children are vulnerable and need protection and guidance–that is the way they learn about boundaries (theirs and others), and what is acceptable.

If we were raised by people who didn’t create boundaries for themselves, or didn’t create boundaries for us as children, we find ourselves as adults with fuzzy boundaries.

For the most part, I believe our caregivers did the best they could with the tools they had available to them. Often, they were not taught/given the tools needed to create boundaries.

As women who are ready to take responsibility for our healing, it is imperative for us to begin the retraining process for ourselves. We can’t go into the past and change things. BUT we can choose differently today, so that we learn new tools and new ways of being in the world.

We can have compassion for the child within us that never learned what she needed to learn in order to create healthy boundaries, AND we can step into the strong powerful woman who will commit to stand up for the inner child.

It is a process. It takes time, compassion, commitment, love, and strength, and you are powerful and aware enough to accomplish it.

If you no longer want to feel like a vulnerable child, and are ready to stand firm in your empowered divine feminine self, private message me. You are worthy.

Do You Doubt You?

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Do you doubt your abilities? Do you doubt your value? Do you doubt your importance in the world?

I get you. I’ve been there.

And to be completely honest, sometimes my mind still ventures into that dangerous thought neighborhood. The difference today is, I don’t live there, and I know the path to return me home to the truth of who and what I am.

If you don’t know who you are, then it is difficult to return to a loving center.

It’s like knowing you have a home, but not knowing the address. You run up to everyone you know asking them if they know who you are… asking them where you live… asking them to bring you home. Can you imagine how you would feel if someone came up to you and asked you that?

Crazy, right?

But we have done this in romantic relationships, friendships, and sometimes even with complete strangers. We look for validation. We look for approval. We look for someone to tell us we are enough. And even if they tell us these things, we don’t believe them. All the outside praise we receive is never good enough because the approval we are really seeking is our own approval.

No one else can bring you home.

While that journey is for your feet alone, another can guide you back to yourself. Through inquiry, meditation, prayer, and other practices you can re-member your way home to yourself. You can re-member who you are.

Once you know the way home to yourself, then even if you stumble into the darkness from time to time, you can still find your way back.

It is our sacred wild self that knows we can accomplish our goals, knows our value, and knows our importance in the healing of the world. The journey back to our sacred wild self takes commitment, radical honesty, and courage.

Are you ready to take that journey?

If you are sick and tired of doubting yourself in myriad ways, and are ready to reclaim your inherent power, then private message me so we can see if you are a good fit for my program. Blessings.

Really Caring For Yourself (Hint: It’s not about bubble baths!)

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Taking the time to care for ourselves is important. It means more than just eating healthy, or indulging in a leisurely bubble bath. When we are truly caring for ourselves we honor the “yes” and the “no” we feel in every cell of our body.

Some people call it intuition. Tuning into that subtle hearing/feeling sense found in our body is primal. It is where we connect with our wild self. When we tune into this vibration, this inner guidance, we slip into alignment. We make choices that resonate with our deepest, most aware selves.

Are you tuning into your body? Do you know how to connect with that guiding voice at the center of your being that loves you unconditionally? Or are you disconnected from your body, from your wild primal self? Does every decision feel like a wobble, and is every new step taken in fear?

Learning to listen to the subtle “yes” and “no” resonating in our body is important when we use our your voice and our body to express ourselves. Being able to align with our heart’s guidance allows us to claim our place in the world; It allows us to take up space, and discover freedom in every breath.

If you are disconnected with your body, don’t know how to connect with your intuition or your primal guidance, and long to live a life more connected to your inherent power and grace as a women, then private message me to set up a discovery call. We need as many women to awaken as possible during this time on our planet! Love you! Suzy Hawkfire (Suzette Winona Summers)