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Every thought. Every word. Every action.
In every moment we teach people how to treat us.
Children are vulnerable and need protection and guidance–that is the way they learn about boundaries (theirs and others), and what is acceptable.
If we were raised by people who didn’t create boundaries for themselves, or didn’t create boundaries for us as children, we find ourselves as adults with fuzzy boundaries.
For the most part, I believe our caregivers did the best they could with the tools they had available to them. Often, they were not taught/given the tools needed to create boundaries.
As women who are ready to take responsibility for our healing, it is imperative for us to begin the retraining process for ourselves. We can’t go into the past and change things. BUT we can choose differently today, so that we learn new tools and new ways of being in the world.
We can have compassion for the child within us that never learned what she needed to learn in order to create healthy boundaries, AND we can step into the strong powerful woman who will commit to stand up for the inner child.
It is a process. It takes time, compassion, commitment, love, and strength, and you are powerful and aware enough to accomplish it.
If you no longer want to feel like a vulnerable child, and are ready to stand firm in your empowered divine feminine self, private message me. You are worthy.
As we begin to value ourselves more, create boundaries, and become unwilling to tolerate unacceptable behavior, those around us may begin to feel uncomfortable.
In the past we may have said “yes” to everything that was asked of us, and suddenly we are exercising our right to say “no.” People in our life may not like that, or understand it. They may take it personally.
At those times we can choose to let them know that we have been working on ourselves, and are learning to take care of our needs, and learning to decide what is best for us. It may be helpful to assure them that it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with us.
Of course, we don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Just as we have love and compassion for ourselves as we change, we can extend that love and compassion to those around us, as they adjust to a woman who speaks “yes” and “no” from her heart.
As we raise our vibration, we raise the vibration of others around us. Some will not want to step into a new vibration. Some people may fall away from our life at that point–either because they were there for the benefits in the past, or because they don’t know yet how to value themselves. That is ok too.
By choosing to honor ourselves we serve as an example to others that they can stand in their truth. By empowering ourselves, we silently remind other women it is acceptable to be empowered. The work we do for ourselves does not only serve us; it serves our children, our friends, our world. We become a light to so many as we step out of the darkness and shine our light into the world.
I’m sorry. What are we telling ourselves and other people when we say those words when an apology is not necessary? What can you say instead? And why is it so important for us to change the words we use? I discuss here.
Do you find yourself saying “I’m sorry,” all the time? For things that do not require an apology? You are not alone. Many of us have done this, and catch ourselves doing it so frequently that even we are wondering, “Why am I saying that?”
When we say this, and an apology is not needed we are feeding into an idea that we need outside validation of our existence. WE create an unequal power dynamic that assumes our inferiority. Then when we find ourselves in relationships with people who treat us as “less than,” we become confused.
We may need to “fake it, ’til we make it” in this instance, and starting acting as if we are worthy until we actually feel that truth in our bodies.
One way we can shift out of saying “I’m sorry” is by switching to “Thank you.”
Instead of saying, “I’m sorry I’m late, I had a family emergency,” we say, “Thank you for being so patient today. I was late because I had a family emergency.”
In the second sentence we are not looking for the other person to accept us, nor are we acting subordinate, instead we are assuming their graciousness and our equality.
After being in chaotic circumstances for a significant amount of time, we can develop the habit of attempting to control everything and everyone around us.
Ultimately, this creates disharmony and resentment. The only thing we have power over is ourselves and our thoughts.
When we become masters of our thoughts, everything becomes possible because all creation begins in thought.
Watch your thoughts today. Are you thinking thoughts of what you want to create? Or are you thinking thoughts of how annoyed you are?
Where attention goes, energy flows (James Redfield). Where are you directing your attention? What are you feeding? Are you feeding your energy into a life of your dreams? Or are you feeding your energy into the creation of a nightmare? What you feed will grow!
Choose consciously. You are worthy!
I saw A Wrinkle In Time the other night. It was a beautiful movie—the message it conveyed, the cinematography, the actresses and actors… plus Oprah!!! One of the lines that stuck out to me most was “You just have to find the right frequency and have faith in who you are.” How does that message land in your body? The song “I Believe” (below) played at the end of the movie. Listen to the words… feel them… music is powerful medicine.
What if your wounds were a portal into yourself…a portal to creator? What if all of your pain, struggles, and sufferings were not a mistake, but part of a larger purpose? What if they were all opportunities and gateways for your growth?
The way we choose to see situations effects how we live. Are we living as victims, or victors? Have you given into a story that keeps you small, weak, and vulnerable?
What if I told you that you could choose a different story? What if I toldyou that you could choose a story where you are strong, courageous, and with a spirit so large nothing intimidates you?
If I told you that you had a choice, would you believe me? Which story would you choose?
If you are exhausted by the sad story you have been living in, and you are ready to create a story that excites and empowers you, then private message me. The light is simply waiting for your permission to shine through you. You are worthy.
Are you waiting for everything in your life to be perfect so that you can experience peace? If so, you’re going to be waiting a looooong time.
By the way, when was the last time every piece of your laundry was clean? When will your housework be absolutely complete?
Life is about change. When change stops, death occurs.
Peace isn’t dependent upon outside circumstances. Peace is a state of mind. And once you can access that state, regardless of situations in your life, it is amazing how gracefully life starts to fit into place… miracles occur… situations resolve themselves.
You’re probably wondering, “how do I get there?” I have a few suggestions… let’s discuss later.